Do you ever think about the word “forever”? Like, you will have to work ‘forever’, or I will be your friend ‘forever’. For me, that word means everything. It’s like a spell to do anything whether you like it or not and it can’t be stopped. Recently I found that ‘marriage’ can be categorized as ‘forever’ as well. Once you took an oath, you can’t change your mind, neither your partner. You can’t say ‘nothing last forever’, because marriage is your forever life. That’s how it is.
Willy and I have been together since 2017 and it’s time to make it legal in Indonesia. Yes, I say ‘legal’ because different from western culture, in Indonesia, you have to be a legitimate husband and wife if you want to live together and cuddling each other every night on the bed. If you don’t, people will talk something bad about you and possibly you will be judged by society. Well, that’s kind of what I heard on the news.
Anyway, I will not talk about our trip or destinations on this post. I will talk about our marriage (and its drama).
Generally, in Indonesia, a marriage should have a wedding ceremony and a wedding reception. A wedding ceremony is more like a religious ceremony; in my case, as a Catholic, my wedding ceremony has to be held at a church. Meanwhile, a wedding reception is a celebration of your wedding as you and your partner will be a king and a queen for a night, held a party, people of you and your family acquaintance are invited, all-you-can-eat buffet is a must, and people who come will give you their blessing and gift (mostly money in an envelope). Here, a wedding reception is where your savings mostly are gone.
Willy and I decided to make it simple. Actually, as both Chinese, we supposed to hold a Chinese wedding tradition like what my friend did (read here for full story, but in Bahasa). But I think the reason why we both didn’t like to do it because our parents didn’t teach us about that tradition since we were a child. Therefore we grew up with the understanding of that tradition is not so important. Well, why would we do something that we don’t know the meaning of?
A wedding without drama is boring.
This year of 2018 is a year of Mt. Agung is highly active in Bali. So, a night before our wedding was a kind of nerve to us because this volcano mount was suddenly erupting in the morning and all flight to Bali was canceled and the airport was closed because of the ash clouds! But thank God, the airport was opened again at 3 P.M. and I thought our family members could arrive on time because they booked a night flight schedule. But what happened was their flight got delayed until midnight. I got a dark circle on my eye bags on the next morning because of waiting for them until 2.30 A.M. (and I had to wake up at 7 o’clock).
Well, our wedding was running smoothly at the end. Our family could make it to Bali, although some of them couldn’t, and our beloved friends also came and congratulate us.
We didn’t hold a huge celebration for our wedding reception like what usually people thought about a wedding in Bali. You know like a beach party or a flowery garden party… We just want to make it simple and done in 4 hours (the ceremony + the reception). Sooner better. So… yeah, I would like to say that now we are a life partner to each other forever!